My Perfect Marriage episode 26

MY PERFECT MARRIAGE

EPISODE 26 (FINAL)

Tisa had fallen pregnant again and unfortunately miscarried when she realised Philip was dating his secretary. Philip was verbally abusive and they often argued over money that he rarely brought home. Philip lost his job without official notice and he was running from one court to another to sue for his benefits. Tisa’s boutiques brought the money home and it was much harder to survive. Philips girlfriend gave Tisa no peace, he often slept at her house. He gave all the money they had saved from Tisa’s boutique to his girlfriend who secretly used it to plan her wedding with her boyfriend.

Philip hated Tisa and he couldn’t stand her, he called her illiterate and just a cheap woman with nothing to offer. However she was the reality he had to go back to and not even his children with her made him content.

Word had gone round about Patience’s wedding and Elvin went the extra mile to make it special, he hired artists to perform on their wedding day and paid for her dresses that were coming from the states with his sisters.

Patience and Elvin were not planning on a bridal shower as they decided to purchase all they needed themselves. Elvin’s house just like Patience’s house had everything built in, all the major things were part of the house such as the fridge, stove, microwave dish washer and washing machine. They diverted all their funds towards their wedding.

After the stressful days of planning and the long sleepless nights the wedding finally came.
Patience spent at the Protea hotel where the wedding would be held, no one knew about her where abouts except for Elvin. This was specifically to avoid the scenario she went through on her first marriage. The ladies slept at the matron’s house who happened to be Kassy.

The day of the wedding Patience’s mum went together with Kassy and the stylists to dress up Patience. She looked beautiful just like a princess, she had everything she had ever wanted and more.

As patience was dressing she received a gift from Elvin, it was in an envelope. She wondered what it could be.

“Did he send me money as a wedding present? Or maybe a letter?” she thought.
Patience calmly opened the envelope and found two air tickets, to go to America for their honeymoon. She couldn’t believe her eyes and she just shed tears of joy.

“He sure does know how to impress” her mother said.

The wedding service was at the cathedral and patience got there in a white jeep while Elvin arrived in a similar one but in black, the ladies were in a white limo so were the men. Elvin had hired 6 bikers to escort their convoy just like Patience had wanted.

The wedding was special but what made it extra special was the vows the two made to each other. Elvin had written down his vows and they were quite emotional.

“My dear Patience they say it takes a lot of Patience to get the one you love and it took me some Patience to get Patience. I love you like I have known you all my life. Standing here making my vows to you is not a joke, it a lifelong promise that I will live with for the rest of my life. As of today I have become blind, because from now onwards you are my eyes to see the world. I attach myself to you today until death do us apart. My precious one Thandiwe and yourself are a true reflection of love because your presence alone brightens my day, your joy is contagious its no wonder Thandiwe is always happy and that makes me happy. Bone of my bone flesh of my flesh.. Patience you are my hero.” Elvin said as he shed tears

Patience had written some vows down but decided to speak from her heart.

“Elvin my love, you found me at a place when I didn’t know myself. I was confused frustrated and very judgmental. You taught me to love and trust completely, you gave Thandiwe and I a home in your heart and understand us even when we were a handful sometimes. It had to take a real man to carry this extra baggage but God gave me more than that.. He gave me a king. Today you have given me the opportunity to trust again and to love again. Thank you for loving us..” Patience said tearfully

The two exchanged vows and just before midday the celebrant pronounced them husband and wife.

The wedding reception was at Protea hotel and it was the talk of the town. The music was great and the food was to die for.

The two love birds flew to America two days after the wedding and then later went to Italy where they closed their honey moon. Elvin was more concerned about Thandiwe and kept wishing that she was present to experience the fun with them. However, Patience comforted saying they would visit with her whenever they wanted as her family was there.

When they returned home Patience and Elvin officially settled in Elvin’s house while the other house was put on rent and it generated money to build their dream house. Patience had always wanted to go into real estate and Elvin helped her achieve that dream. Together they decided to give back to the community by sponsoring orphanages and helping widows. They knew that to whom much is given, much is required.

Patience was confirmed pregnant two months after the wedding and it was the happiest news for the couple. However she faced a challenge ahead. Philip started fighting for the custody of Thandiwe and this strained Patience throughout her pregnancy. Elvin offered her much support and always escorted her to court, after much evidence given Patience won full custody of Thandiwe and Philip was considered irresponsible by the judge who said he could only see her once a month in the presence of a guardian.

It was clear Philip was just trying to start an unnecessary fight and he did not even show much effort after the pronouncement.

Patience gave birth to triplets, two boys and one girl. They were very healthy and bouncy. God gave her what Tisa had obtained through crooked means. She was now called bana mpundu (mother of twins) and every day she never ceased to thank God for the miracles upon her life. Elvin was a great dad and very supportive, he was always there for Thandiwe and he officially adopted her by changing her surname to his.

Patience can testify to the fact that leaning on God gave her another chance, a second chance to be happy. She did not force herself to stay in a situation that God had clearly asked her to leave, and she was not bitter but in all things she trusted the Lords judgment.

Many marriages fail because people have become saviors of their own relationships. Let’s go through the lessons we have learnt from this story..
Tisa taught us many lessons which I will not list below.. However,

1. Petrina taught us that sometimes humble beginnings are the source of true happiness. Petrina went into a marriage with a man she only saw potential in, everyone else thought she was desperate and had lost her mind. Sometimes we reject people we know deep down our hearts that they may be right for us because society has set out standards they feel we should abide by.

2. Nonde taught us that medicine is not a solution. Nonde started her marriage on charms and what happened was that he left her for a woman who was not even her standard. She went backwards met Christ and started afresh in a new marriage.

3. Kassy taught us that Going into a marriage knowing very well that the person you are with is not right for you but at the back of your mind hoping things will be better is a recipe for disaster. Some couples are busy forcing relationships. Unlike Kassy some people have to fight the rest of their lives because they made a wrong decision from the beginning. Wanting to be married to a wealthy man or just wanting to married itself should not lead one to settle for the wrong person. Some marriages today are a battle with side-chicks from day one not because the man changed but because the women thought they would change him through marriage. Women marriage is a lifelong commitment, choose your battle carefully.

4. Finally our main character patience taught us many lessons. Firstly, just like her name.. Patience sure does pay. We see how Patience was so patient in handling her marital problems. Some women take their battles outside the house before they can even sort them out between themselves. She tried by all means to sort it out within before she took it out. This helps maintain the dignity of your partner even when they have done wrong. Imagine you embarrass your partner publicly and then when you get back what does that say about you?. Some marriages have crushed because of what was said and not because of the initial problem. Secondly, letting go is a personal decision. Many people have stayed in dysfunctional marriages because of submission. There’s no submission without love so how can you expect to submit in a marriage that has no love. That is why killings are always on the media. Which is better to stay with someone you do not have the grace to tolerate or to leave and save yourself the sin of “murder”.

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