MY INFERIOR HUSBAND
EPISODE 31
Dave had ordered me to follow him to a friend’s party ,it was funny because this was the first time since we got married that he finally agreed I could follow him to any party even though he selected the clothes for me. Dave has always avoided been seeing with me and this had made me thought if I was ugly and not good to be seen with him but I dare not asked as I feared been beaten.
Life has been so difficult since I decided to let go of my job to save what I called marriage. I could hardly get a decent and good dress as Dave became so stingy and hardly gave me money since I could not conceive .
Dave had excused himself during the party and was flocking with fair sexy lady . I wanted to confront him but I knew best it was good to let go as I was afraid of been disgraced in the party as Dave could disgrace me anywhere irrespective of the people around. There was hardly anything I could do to please him .
His friends had tried to bring up discussion to make me less bothered and I was gradually contributing as they were talking about the role of females in the society. It was funny some of his friends also believed women were lesser being and so deserve little or less from the society, I could not keep quiet as I tried correcting their opinions about women.
I had stopped immediately Dave came and his countenance was so bad because I knew I was already in trouble . It was not long when he suggested we should leave,I already knew what was in stock for me .
I decided to keep mute and face whatever he was going to do. I knew I was supposed to walk out from the marriage but what will the church, society and family say? Where will I start from at the age of 45 ,all these were the reasons I decided to stay and face the music of my decision and desperation.
We had hardly gotten home when he slapped and called me different names and asked why I would ever interfere in men’s talks . I could not just stopped crying because I knew I put myself in such bad traps .
I was welcomed to the main beating when we got home, he was so merciless in the beating as he was shouting . it was during this beating I felt a sharp pain underneath my tummy and I shouted but this made him more furious that I was trying to make people intervene and make him bad.
The pain had gotten so bad that I was rushed to the hospital, it was there I found out I had lost a pregnancy I did not know of before the beating.
I knew this was the peak of it and I need to get out of the shackles I called marriage now or I die in it . I could not tolerate it anymore after losing my pregnancy after the long search.
I knew I had to stand up for myself and stop been desperate and stop considering the outside pressure that had made me tolerate the pains and suffering I had been through .
My pastor had visited me in the hospital when I told him I wanted to divorce Dave and had tried talking me out of it that divorce was against the Lord’s wish .
If you were in my shoes,would you have stayed because Divorce is against the bible and church doctrine or moved out and stay happy.
*Certain time we sometimes have to live abusive relationship to stay alive for ourselves and our children. Do not stay in abusive relationship or marriage because of your children, if you die in the marriage, who will actually take care of the kids like you can.
If you decide to stay also because of the church or society, remember you wear the shoe and know where it pinches the most. No relationship is do or die,we all met on earth and we would also end it on earth. Leave before it is too late.
